There is something about death, that sends shivers down our spine. We mourn and showcase our sorrows with the passing of a loved one or acquaintance. Even though we are very well aware that we all have to pass away one day and yet we showcase a surprise to the event.
Birth is greeted with a smile but death is turned to a frown. I have asked this question to a number of people and have been given a number of reasonable answers like, “We will miss the person and their company”, “He/she was so young and was such a good child” and “The passing of the person is a mourning process for the family and friends”.
There is a thought that caused a break in me following these same principles and it goes something like this. We are always happy when something good or happy happens to us but we get depressed when things don’t go our way. Even if it is not as large as death by itself even the small things are treated with a negative and saddened thought. The loss of a job, losing a competition, getting robbed, being cheated or even yet being betrayed. These negative events make a dent in our thinking process and get us to a negative emotion which leaves us bare and frustrated to some extent. So why don’t we try to accept all these negative events in our lives with a smile?
My point is when something bad happens to you, celebrate it as it is the start of something new. Let me narrate an incident that happened to me personally and my reactions were all spontaneous and not to my understanding until much later.
In 2009, I was employed with a respectable company and out of the blue, I realized I am being asked to leave the company due to downsizing and restructuring. In the week that I lost my job, my wallet was stolen, Bike confiscated and helmet stolen. I was going through a bad incident one after another and I did not realize why was it happening? So I stayed at home for over 2 weeks scared to step out of the house and have something else bad happen to me. In those two weeks, I did some introspection and came to realize that it was my reaction to each individual event that got me more and more depressed and saddened. Let me recap step by step.
First I lost my job, I always knew the company was downsizing and I was going to be among the ones who are going to be asked to leave but yet I was saddened by it. In the dazed phase, I was travelling by train in Mumbai and deep in thought of how my career would take shape from here was when my wallet was stolen. And I never realized it until I reached home when I went to change my clothes. A few days later, I was going to meet a friend about a job and in the process, I parked my bike at a no parking zone as I was late and had to meet him on time. I did not get a decent lead from there and on my return from his office, I was told that my bike was seized by the traffic police. I had to go to the traffic police station and collect it. The next day I went to the mall to buy some items for the house and since I was on my bike, I felt I could leave my helmet on the bike, as no one would bother of stealing it from there. After the shopping, my assumptions were laid to test as my helmet was not to be found and none of the security guards had a clue what happened?
All these events were the cause of the reaction and process that started with me losing my job and being distracted from the rest of the world. Had I had the presence of mind and kept my calm and accepted the inevitable, there would have been no problem existent to make it worse. I would have definitely still lost my job but saved on my wallet being stolen, my bike getting confiscated and helmet stolen. One event caused three other negative events that led to more depression and me locking myself in the house for a period of recovery.
What would be preferable to be in a state of mourning or to pick up the sticks from where it had fallen and moved on? Wouldn’t it be better to just turn the page and wait for a brighter day? Why create happiness? Instead, accept what is there in front of us for what it is worth and not get too attached to that event for longer than needed. Just be an observer to our own lives and move on.
Taking it back to my initial insight, why do we mourn during the death of a person? Why can we not celebrate their life for the time that they were there? Remember the good times and wipe away the bad times from our memories. It should be a thankful gesture that they are no longer required to live in a polluted world or work long hours to make a living or bow down to a boss who has no clue of your capabilities. Instead, they are now resting for their time spent on this planet and hopefully are in a better place than what we currently are in.
Accept death as a matter of process and the circle of life. Nothing is permanent and nothing is forever. Life is but a matter of time for us on this planet. So while we accept life in its entirety lets think of how to accept death as well with a smile.
This cannot happen overnight but with a change of our mindset towards life. The events in our daily life give us the opening that prepares us for the bigger hurdle. LIFE!
With each event as described if we can correct ourselves and look to better our existence, our health, our relationship, our careers, we will be in a path to accept that nothing is permanent in the world. Just like the materials around us wither over a period of time our body also takes a path of wearing down.
~Written by Roshan Dsouza, Life Consultant and Counselling Psychologist
Roshan terms himself as a life consultant because he has the experience of being an employee, running a business and counselling. Using the statistical ability and the mental prowess of a leader he helps guide business houses into profit-making decisions by harnessing their instincts with the right data. This gives them an edge into calling a bluff or making the best deal.
Also, a counsellor he works with clients with disorders and helps them find their purpose, thereby solving the problem. An avid body language study, he specializes in peoples reactions without the need for them to speak, still working on reading poker players
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